• Wednesday , 19 September 2018

How to Find Love and be Happy

According to famous psychiatrist and psychoanalyst,Carl Jung, “The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” People who want a happy relationship is either looking for someone who shares their interest or some point that will complete them. Most of the time, they will put their best foot forward and makes sure that they will be the best person other people will want as a partner. The best way to find the perfect partner for you is to do some soul-searching.

Looking for your soul mate is time-consuming, find someone who will complete you.

It may sound unreasonable, but this is how most happy couples met. They stopped looking for their soul mate and started to know what they lack and accept their strength and weakness. It will help heal the wounds of past relationships and explore or develop yourself. The first mistake most people make when they are in a relationship is to be with the wrong person who they think will make them feel contented. They need someone to love them to feel loved. That’s not the way to be in a happy and healthy relationship. We all know breaking up with someone is painful and it feels that part of you has been torn, but you need to learn to be whole again. Start soul searching, know what makes you happy, and sooner or later, the right person will come, and you will be ready to have a happy relationship. Finding true love is not easy, you have to exert a lot of effort and patience.

As what old people say, live your life to the fullest and live your life the way you want it to be.

When you start knowing yourself and follow what you want, you begin to live a meaningful life. It will be according to your own pace and not someone else’s ideas on how you should run your life. Doing the things that you feel is right for you, means that you will be in the job you wanted, the places you want to be, and around people you love. You have a higher chance of meeting the right person for you.

Stop being someone you are not.

Living the life you want will automatically make you more attractive to other people. You will become authentic, valuable, real, happy and passionate, to people you know and you will meet in the future. It will be effortless for you to be beautiful inside and out. When you try to be someone you are not, you behave like someone else, you will try to look like someone else, and if you meet your soul mate, they might not recognize you because you live someone else’s life. My advice is to be yourself, wear the clothes you usually wear, eat the food you normally eat and do the things that make you comfortable.

Develop or find in yourself the qualities that you like in a person.

According to www.psychologytoday.com, most people know very little about themselves. Either they don’t know, or they try to suppress it or show the qualities that they think other people will like about them. It is a typical response when growing up because we have to do anything to survive. We have to develop the qualities and characteristics that we see will help us survive growing up. We forgot the qualities we think is unnecessary or not needed that’s why part of ourselves are sometimes hidden at some point. When we meet someone who has those qualities that we hide, it is important to find or develop those qualities to express ourselves more naturally and have a relationship that is not based on hypocrisy.

Each relationship is unique, how you look at each relationship and how you face it will be different every time. You don’t need to plan it to gain an advantage because we don’t know how each relationship will unfold. You have to process it and make your decisions as it unfolds. All you can do is live your life how you like it to be, learn from your mistakes and don’t forget to love yourself. No one wants to be in a relationship with a person who doesn’t even know how to be in a relationship with themselves.